But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. And do not fear their intimidation, and do not be troubled, but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you yet with gentleness and reverence; and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.  1 Peter 3: 14-16

Apologetic Report - Tim Lane
Sunday, 19 March 2017 10:57

How to Grow in Grace: Step Seven

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In my last blog, I said that the Christian vision of change is rooted fundamentally in a relationship, not a discipline, technique or even thinking positive thoughts about your new standing in Christ. It means RELATING to Christ on the basis of what he has done for you.

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Wednesday, 01 March 2017 08:49

How to Grow in Grace: Step Six

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In my book Living Without Worry: How to Replace Anxiety with Peace, I discuss a common error when considering the change process. Parts of this post comes from an excerpt taken from pages 113-117.

The More You Know?

We tend to think that if we just know the right things, change will happen....

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Sunday, 12 February 2017 16:55

How to Grow in Grace: Step Five

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Have you ever been in a heated conversation with someone and it was just the two of you in a room? In the middle of the argument, your cell phone rings or someone else enters the room and you change in an instant from angry and agitated to quiet, calm and sensitive! Have you ever wondered why you...

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Wednesday, 01 February 2017 16:26

How to Grow in Grace: Step Four

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John finds that he has a pattern of anger in his life that just won’t go away. Ethan struggles with anxiety and often feels stuck. He tries and tries to change but nothing seems to improve. Catherine regularly looks for an excuse to go online and shop when she is lonely. Now her credit card...

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Sunday, 15 January 2017 16:59

How to Grow in Grace: Step Three

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When Jesus saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Matthew 9:36

Step Three: Rightly Pay Attention to Your Circumstances

Step three in the process of change continues to look outward, but now challenges you to start considering...

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Monday, 09 January 2017 15:39

How to Grow in Grace: Step Two

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Grace finds goodness in everythingGrace finds beauty in everythingGrace makes beauty out of ugly things“Grace” – U2

In our previous post, we said that step one in the process of growth in grace is fixing our eyes on Jesus. If we are going to even begin the process of...

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Tuesday, 03 January 2017 18:13

How to Grow in Grace: Step One

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As I walk’d through the wilderness of this world, I lighted on a certain place where was a Den, and I laid me down in that place to sleep; and as I slept, I dreamed a Dream. –John Bunyan, Pilgrim’s Progress

This is how John Bunyan begins his classic allegory, Pilgrim’s...

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Monday, 14 November 2016 16:52

Is Worry A Sin?

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“Is worry a sin?” This is one of the most asked questions I hear whenever I am speaking or teaching on the subject of worry and anxiety. I would like to begin my answer to that question by sharing a simple example from my own experience.

My Own Experience with Anxiety

When I completed my...

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Monday, 24 October 2016 20:21

Five Ways Worry Can Be Helpful

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We typically think that worry is a bad habit. But there is a good worry and a bad worry. Bad worry leads you to check out or become hyper-vigilant. Your “fight or flight” instincts are in overdrive when you are doing bad worry. That is usually what we mean when we use the word...

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Monday, 03 October 2016 17:56

How Does the Bible Define Worry?

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Anxiety and Scripture

After considering the strengths and limitations of modern diagnoses for anxiety, we need to take a moment to see how Scripture captures the experience of worry and how it pinpoints the problem at the most fundamental level.

In the Old and New Testaments there are a host of words...

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Monday, 12 September 2016 09:55

What Exactly Is Anxiety?

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Anxiety and Modern Research

What is worry? In the first blog we discussed the experienceof worry and in the second we addressed the multi-layered potential shaping influences that impact the degree to which we may struggle with anxiety. But what exactly is anxiety/worry? How do you begin to define...

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Wednesday, 24 August 2016 12:34

What Causes Us To Worry?

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Everyone worries.Some of us more than others. Reports show that nearly 20% of people living in the US struggle with anxiety. That means that approximately 65 million people experience worry that impacts their daily lives and relationships in profound ways.

In 2008, American physicians wrote more...

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Wednesday, 17 August 2016 10:58

Are You Stressed Out?

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There are three major issues we all face; anger, addiction, and anxiety. We all struggle with irritation and anger. We all deal with worry and anxiety. And we all find places other than God to find comfort when life is hard. When talking about addiction, Gerald Mays, in his book Addiction and Grace,...

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Sunday, 10 April 2016 09:49

The Soul of Shame

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You broke the bondsAnd you loosed the chainsCarried the cross of my shameOh my shame, you know I believe it. But I still haven't found what I'm looking for.

U2 – "I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For"

We all know we need forgiveness. But there is also a deep longing for an...

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Monday, 04 April 2016 11:33

Website Merge

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instituteforpastoralcare.com is now at timlane.org

In October of 2013, I launched timlane.org where I began blogging on a regular basis. As a result of writing and speaking, this website gained significant traffic and exposure to the work I was doing with churches.

With the formation of the...

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Saturday, 20 February 2016 09:04

Four Pillars for a Lasting Marriage

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How do you keep the song in your relationship? It seems as if most couples drift apart over time. They get married, build careers, raise the children and then wake up one morning and wonder who the other is. While each person in a marriage is an individual, once you are married you become a team....

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Sunday, 07 February 2016 05:40

Four Things to Help Overcome Gridlock in Your Marriage

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Have you ever found yourself in a place in your marriage where you and your spouse disagree and it seems like there is no way forward? At some point, in any marriage, this is a possibility. It happens when you can’t learn to live with your perpetual problems. According to John Gottman every...

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Saturday, 30 January 2016 11:09

Two Things You Need When You Disagree With Your Spouse

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Do you and your spouse seem to argue about the same issues that never get resolved? You are not alone. Even good marriages have these kinds of disagreements. In reality, all marriages have challenges. You can’t live in close proximity with another human being and not struggle to love them;...

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Saturday, 23 January 2016 02:02

The Most Important Ingredient to Improve Your Marriage

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What fuels a strong, resilient, enjoyable marriage? Most people would immediately answer with suggestions like better communication and the ability to resolve conflicts. As important as those skills are, it is actually much more simple than that. According to marriage and relationship expert John...

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We all know what makes for a good marriage; a climate of grace, good communication, healthy disagreements resolved in ways that honor the other, forgiveness, empathy, good companionship and intimate sex. But are you as keen to spot the things that could be slowly destroying your marriage?

Most...

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Tuesday, 08 December 2015 11:41

What Should We Make of Personality Disorders?

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What does the average pastor do when confronted with someone who exhibits troubling behavior that disrupts relationships and creates bedlam in the church? Unfortunately, because training for these types of issues is minimal, the response can create more problems. These types of inflexible thinking...

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Wednesday, 02 December 2015 01:38

Is Worry Making Us Sick?

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Any quick search in Google or Amazon will confirm what we all already know; worry is harmful to our bodies. Here are a few physical symptoms associated with worry:

  • Difficulty swallowing
  • Dizziness
  • Dry mouth
  • Fast heartbeat
  • Fatigue
  • Headaches
  • Muscle aches
  • Muscle tension
  • Nausea
  • Rapid breathing
  • Sweating
  • Tremblin...

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Tuesday, 22 September 2015 23:03

A Glass Half Full

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When you look at this picture, do you see a glass half full or half empty? What about the way you view other people, especially other Christians?

I know, we don't want to be accused of going soft on total depravity, the reality of remaining sin and the temptation to exchange worship of the true God...

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Monday, 31 August 2015 04:02

Google Life

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In January of 2010, my wife and I traveled to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia to do some teaching in various local churches. Prior to going, I had no idea where it was. In order to get my bearings so that I could see just where we would be traveling, I got my tablet and opened Google Earth. Immediately, I...

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Monday, 24 August 2015 23:39

When Culture Feels Scary

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When you reflect on the past month in the U.S. -- the recent SCOTUS rulings, racial tension and debates over immigration policy, to name a few -- do you find yourself pessimistic and fearful or optimistic and hopeful? Depending upon where you stand on particular issues, a wide variety of responses...

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