But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. And do not fear their intimidation, and do not be troubled, but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you yet with gentleness and reverence; and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.  1 Peter 3: 14-16

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Wednesday, 20 June 2018 03:31

Sexual Abuse in Marriage: 12 Ways to Help Victims

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This is part 3 of a 3 part series: Part 1 | Part 2

This is the third in a series of blogs on the sexual abuse of women in marriage. My goal is to help counselors and pastors to recognize when a wife is being sexual abused by her husband and then offer appropriate help. In the first two blogs, I...

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Wednesday, 13 June 2018 03:18

Sexual Abuse in Marriage: The Power of Confusion

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This is part 2 of a 3 part series (Part 3 forthcoming): Part 1

This is the second in a series of blogs on the sexual abuse of women in marriage. My goal is to help counselors and pastors to recognize when a wife is being sexually abused by her husband and then offer appropriate help. In the first...

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Wednesday, 13 June 2018 03:09

Applying Difficult Passages

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We know that all Scripture is meant to shape us for good (2 Tim. 3:16-17) but what happens when we encounter passages that defy connection to our daily lives? Numbers 5:11-31 is one such passage–if you’ve never read it, now would be a good time! Briefly, it records the procedure to...

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Wednesday, 06 June 2018 02:16

Sexual Abuse in Marriage

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This is the first in a series of three blogs on the sexual abuse of women in marriage. My goal is to help counselors and pastors to recognize when a wife is being sexually abused by her husband and then offer appropriate help. In this first blog, we will define what marital sexual abuse is. In the...

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Wednesday, 30 May 2018 01:48

“I am not ok”

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“I am not ok.” It’s the first thing the voice of self-hatred says. While it takes a hundred different forms, it always says the same thing—you are lacking.

I’m a failure.I’m way too messed up.I’m a disappointment to everyone.I am worthless.I’m gross.I...

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Monday, 21 May 2018 01:28

13 Reasons Why: Season 2

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This is the second post in the series on 13 Reasons Why. You can read the first post here.

Season 2 of the Netflixseries 13 Reasons Why was released last week. This series is based on a novel written by Jay Asher. After classmate and love interest, Hannah Baker, commits suicide, Clay Jensen is...

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Tuesday, 15 May 2018 05:18

When Violence Touches a Child’s Life

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The threat of danger impacts our children on a regular basis. Tragic school shootings, violent crimes and the like all incite an array of heartache and anxiety. Even when the threat is not at our front door, it is booming from media outlets into our homes. The likelihood that your child is impacted...

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Friday, 27 April 2018 04:19

They Call It Narcissism

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It is always their “birthday.” Today, tomorrow, and the next day are dedicated to their interests and desires, so don’t expect that you will be known or understood. No empathy here. No room for guilt either. If you interfere with the party, expect to receive their anger. That...

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Thursday, 05 April 2018 05:45

“Your Desire Shall Be for Your Husband”

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The passage is from Genesis 3:16. The Lord is speaking about the consequences of sin to the woman.

To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.”

The...

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This question is among those that have been coming to CCEF in advance of our 2018 conference on Scripture.

Given this question, most of us would start with, “Please, tell me more,” or perhaps, “What’s up?” Without knowing the direction of such a dialogue, let’s...

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Wednesday, 21 March 2018 05:59

An Open Letter to the Suffering Christian

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Dear friend,

What words can I say to you when your life is hard and you are hurting? If we were face to face, I probably wouldn’t start with words at all. I would want you to talk when you are able. I want to know you, what you are going through, what it is like for you, and how you are doing....

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Tuesday, 13 March 2018 03:52

Cultivating Praise in Marriage

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Praise and affirmation are essential to the health and vitality of a marriage. Genuine praise and verbalized thankfulness are like marital fertilizer (think Miracle-Gro®) in the soil of your spouse’s heart. They have the power to help heal an ailing marriage or strengthen an already...

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Thursday, 08 March 2018 03:43

Young People and the Dangerous Trend of Vaping

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For years, parents have worked hard to prevent kids from taking up smoking. And though it seems that kids mostly get the message about the dangers of tobacco, they may be hearing false information about vaping ore-cigarettes. These electronic cigarettes are battery-operated and can look like a...

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Tuesday, 27 February 2018 04:21

Being “Right” in Relationships

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I hate marital tension, especially during a night out or a vacation. I realize that no time is convenient for it, but still, I would prefer it didn’t intrude into times that are officially designated for rest and mutual enjoyment.

My wife and I were on a short holiday at the beach. I was...

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Monday, 05 February 2018 01:06

Face to Face with Death

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On January 9, 2018, I came face to face with death. Not my own, but the death of my 87 year-old mother-in-law, Virginia Wilson. She had suffered a debilitating stroke in August 2016 leaving the right side of her body paralyzed and her speech slurred. She found it hard to accept her diminished...

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Monday, 29 January 2018 02:17

Young Teens and Social Media

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Like all of us, teens are made to live in relationship. They are social, interested in peers, and looking for connection in the relationships they build. They are also growing in independence. For many, social media is newly available to them and it is tailor-made made for those who are just...

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Monday, 15 January 2018 20:56

(Un)decorating the Christmas Tree

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How do you feel after the Christmas season has ended? Sad? Relieved? Wistful? Lonely? Frustrated? Bloated? Excited that there are only 347 days, 7 hours, 43 minutes, and 2 seconds left until Christmas Day 2018 (according to xmasclock.com as of this writing)?

Until this year, my dominant experience...

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Monday, 08 January 2018 02:10

Eight Questions on Addictions for Pastors

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The word addiction is open to all kinds of theories, which is one reason some Christians try to avoid it. Slavery is more specific. But the word addiction is a useful point of contact that essentially says, “I like this, or at least I once liked it, but I certainly never planned to be owned...

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Monday, 18 December 2017 21:58

The Christmas Ladder

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I think about ladders during the Christmas season.

In the beginning, the Lord dwelled, in all his fullness and glory, in heaven. Yet he came to earth and began to fashion it into his dwelling. There was a ladder—a vertical bridge—between heaven and earth. The full project would take...

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Tuesday, 12 December 2017 09:07

“What about Angry Victims?”

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I wrote a series of meditations for men and women whose anger has hurt others—A Small Book about a Big Problem. This, certainly, includes us all. Yet there is a version of anger that these meditations only touch briefly and recently someone raised it with me.

What about angry victims?

My first...

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Wednesday, 06 December 2017 01:03

Anger Met with Tears

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My son-in-law was praying before dinner at our home. Meanwhile, my four-year-old twin grandsons continued their conversation. So it was appropriate for me to say something.

“Guys, when we pray it is time to listen, not talk.” I spoke in a normal, conversational tone.

Immediately, one of...

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Monday, 20 November 2017 02:21

Instilling Gratitude in Your Family

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With the approach of Thanksgiving, I am often struck with how people—young and old alike—lack an important attribute: gratitude. I’m not looking for a warm fuzzy thank you for a gift, but a deep rich appreciation for life and what we’ve been given. Why is this? What gets in...

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Monday, 20 November 2017 02:18

Eyes Wide Open

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In America we will celebrate Thanksgiving this week. It is a time to gather together with family and friends and celebrate with good food—we look forward to it. And yet the realities of living in a broken world don’t disappear because it is a holiday. As you prepare your heart and mind...

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