But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. And do not fear their intimidation, and do not be troubled, but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you yet with gentleness and reverence; and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.  1 Peter 3: 14-16

Faith after Deception - Apologetic Report

Anger is a very natural human emotion.  The Bible doesn’t condemn it, but rather warns us: “In your anger do not sin”(Ephesians 4:26a).  Another translation reads: “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” (NLT).

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But what happens if it does control...

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Wednesday, 22 November 2017 08:22

A “healthy” mistrust of science?

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I’ve been realizing lately how many cults and fundamentalist religious groups undermine scientific, analytical thought.  Many of them teach that the world was created in 6 literal days, or a period of 6,000 years, making the dinosaurs and archaeology in general  rather embarrassing...

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Cults are fuelled by fear, shame and secrecy. Members are taught to set their sights on a future existence on a paradise earth or in heaven, and forced to give up all hopes of true joy or fulfilment in this life.  They must resign themselves to boredom, drudgery and self-discipline, which is...

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Saturday, 28 October 2017 02:56

When it’s hard to pray

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Sometimes, when I share my blog posts (particularly this one), I receive comments that I find heartbreaking, such as “I’ve tried praying, but I can’t feel God’s presence or sense He is answering… I don’t know what I’m doing wrong… I’ve given...

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Tuesday, 19 September 2017 07:26

Brother, sister, why are you stumbling me???

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The concept of “stumbling” your fellow Christian is not something many sermons or talks tend to discuss.  If it is mentioned at all, it’s usually in the context of not drinking alcohol in front of others with a dependency problem, or something similar.

In fact, very few people...

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Tuesday, 12 September 2017 10:20

Freedom from abuse (chapter 6)

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One of the most common ways in which people are psychologically traumatized whilst in a cult or religious high control group, is the extreme pressure to “forgive” people who have abused them.  I use the word “forgive” in quotes, because the concept often goes way beyond...

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Monday, 11 September 2017 01:03

Freedom of expression… after leaving a cult

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Where do you find yourself able to be fully self-expressed, fully YOU and also practice your faith and religious beliefs? What makes this possible?

Where do you find yourself feeling “held back” or “reserved” from being fully self-expressed in your faith communities, beliefs,...

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It is unusual for pastors to speak out with compassion on the subject of spiritual abuse.  More often than not, church leaders and members prefer to defend their own denomination fiercely, unable to hear the cries of those who have been wounded by it.  This book will be an invaluable tool...

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Friday, 23 June 2017 11:19

Freedom from loneliness (Chapter 5)

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Human beings are essentially tribal; built to live in close-knit communities.  Sadly, most “developed” societies have become so individualistic that we no longer know how to live alongside each other in a meaningful way.  Many people join cults and fundamentalist groups in...

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Monday, 19 June 2017 11:18

Freedom from Regret (Chapter 4)

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One of the most painful things about waking up from a spiritually abusive group is the sensation that you’ve wasted so much of your life.  All the sacrifices: maybe you weren’t allowed to follow your dreams, get an education, travel, get married or have a family.  Maybe you...

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I was born and brought up in the Church of England, which is part of the Anglican/Episcopalian Communion. My father, a man of great intelligence, love and integrity,  was an Anglican priest. Once I became a Christian at age 15, I would love to sit with him for hours, talking about all the...

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