But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. And do not fear their intimidation, and do not be troubled, but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you yet with gentleness and reverence; and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.  1 Peter 3: 14-16

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In 2019, I was invited to do some teaching on addiction in the United Kingdom. To be most helpful in addressing this topic in that context, I knew I needed to be more aware of the differences between the US and UK when it comes to counselling (notice I spelled it correctly!).

In the US, our...

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Monday, 02 December 2019 09:58

2019 Year End Celebration!

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As 2019 comes to a close, I want to say “Thank You” for your continued interest in the Institute for Pastoral Care. Here are some things that your investments help make possible.

New Workbook for Unstuck: A Nine Step Journey to Change that Lasts

Response to my latest book, Unstuck: A...

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Monday, 21 October 2019 10:25

Love Others for the Long Term

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Loving Others

Step 9

Love Others for the Long Term

So far we’ve covered eight steps that help us to choose the “right fork” at our junction. And I hope that by now you’ve been encouraged by some victories in your battle, however small. 

But… then what? In those...

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Monday, 16 September 2019 11:34

Relate to God in Real Time

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Going Vertical: Talking to the Father

Union with Christ enables us to focus on the various ways that we are connected to Jesus (see previous blog). Now we need to bring these truths into the real life fight to grow in grace. So here is the challenge: how do we take the truth of our union with...

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Location, Location, Location!

What does it look like to practice Gospel Awareness? How do you remain mindful of your relationship to Christ in the push and pull of daily life? It’s not easy. It requires focus, practice, humility and patience….with yourself.

It’s All About Union...

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Monday, 01 July 2019 10:38

The Key to Change

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Union with Christ

Ready to Turn Right

Over the past few blogs, we've looked back to what Christ has done for us and how his Spirit is at work in us. We've looked around us at our circumstances. We've looked down the left fork—our negative responses and the desires that drive them. So how do we...

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Monday, 17 June 2019 10:37

Motivations: Getting Below the Surface

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Look Underneath

Looking Underneath

Have you ever been in a situation like this: you’re in a heated conversation with someone, and it is just the two of you in a room. In the middle of the argument, your cell phone rings or someone else enters the room—and in an instant, you change from...

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Monday, 27 May 2019 12:13

Do Your Responses to Your Circumstances Matter?

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As we continue down this path of change, it is now that we must pay attention to the ways we react to our circumstances. In this chapter of Unstuck: A Nine-Step Journey to Change that Lasts, we take our first pivot inward in a “critical” way. But before we do, remember where we have...

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Monday, 06 May 2019 11:43

Should You Care About Your Past?

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Step 4: Do Your Past And Present Circumstances Matter?

How much weight should you place on the things that have happened to you in your past? How should you pay attention to your physical body and your particular vulnerabilities? What does your brain have to do with change?

Consider the following...

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Monday, 22 April 2019 10:44

Emotions and Growth in Grace

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Step 3, Part 2: Understanding and Managing Emotions

What is the role of emotions in the Christian life? What are you to make of your emotional world? Is the Christian life a life of emotions or should we avoid them? Before we answer these very important questions, we must start with a more basic...

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