But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. And do not fear their intimidation, and do not be troubled, but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you yet with gentleness and reverence; and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.  1 Peter 3: 14-16

Last summer we put our house on the market for a month and there was nary a nibble on it. I despaired. I’m not embarrassed to tell you. I’m an introverted homebody who works from home and was having to vacate the house every day most of the day for showings, only to be met with the...

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Thursday, 14 May 2020 02:14

Leaving Nothing Out

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In May of 2000 I wrote my first blog. We called them “weblogs” back then and they were neither aesthetically pleasing, nor the bastion of opinions or vitriol they are now. There were trolls then, just as there are now, but mostly weblogs were places you shared recipes and talked about...

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Wednesday, 13 May 2020 03:19

Aren't You Bored

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Two months in and I’m finally bored. I’m bored of my house and I’m bored of my pup and I’m bored of our dinners and I’m bored of Netflix and I’m bored of my hammock and I’m bored of my husband and I’m mostly and terribly bored of myself. It turns out...

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Thursday, 07 May 2020 01:08

I'm Dying

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I was 14 years old when I realized I did not have a social security number. I was also 14 years old when I realized my family was not like other families.

We all come to this realization at some point in our lives. Perhaps we realize we’re richer or poorer or happier or sadder or darker or...

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Wednesday, 29 April 2020 05:50

Babies and Gardens and Marriage and Garden Zones

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April showers brought more than May flowers, it also brought a lot of spring babies. Folks keep joking about the baby boom that will happen nine months from now, but in my circle the babies just keep booming and blooming. Everywhere I look right now my friends and acquaintances are holding,...

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Thursday, 23 April 2020 02:14

He Made Us to Grow

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Are you weary yet of all the illustrations we can make with nature for our lives? Too bad. Here’s another one. God put us in a garden, amongst seasons and roots and leaves and shoots and fruits and fallows and soil and labor and groans and birth and death and he did it all for a reason. Here...

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A few years ago I listened to a short talk from Andy Crouch on living “A Pruned Life,”in which he spoke about friction, tension, and the pruning that leads to better and truer growth. This morning I remembered Walter Bruggemann’s line from Sabbath as Resistance: “The way of...

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Monday, 30 March 2020 01:27

The Sound of Collective Grief

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We had a Really Big Thing planned for this month. We’ve been planning and preparing for it since September. This past weekend was circled in our mind’s calendars. It was happening. Everything is in place. Everything in our hands has moved forward, we were merely waiting on the final...

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Wednesday, 11 March 2020 07:39

2020 Writing Mentorship

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Every spring for the last several years I’ve run a Writing Mentorship. It has been a singular joy to me to walk with a small group of writers who want to hone their gifts and are committed to the exercises of the writing life. Through past mentorships I’ve met wordsmiths like Sarah...

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Monday, 09 March 2020 03:57

Six Newsletters I Love

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Last week Tsh Oxenreider shared Ten Great Newsletters she loves and recommends to others. And I thought, hmm, I love that idea. I have been off Twitter the past few weeks (and drastically changed the way I use Twitter over the past month period), so where I used to click on links from Twitter to...

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We are frail, we are fearfully and wonderfully made Forged in the fires of human passion Choking on the fumes of selfish rage And with these our hells and our heavens So few inches apart We must be awfully small And not as strong as we think we are. —Rich...

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Sunday, 23 February 2020 22:55

Link Love: Becoming a Fully Formed Human

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I suppose we all walk with a slight limp somehow, for some of us, it is unnoticeable, existing in the mind (a bent toward simple, single perspective thinking that keeps us limited in space or time) or the heart (a propensity to think or act our way through life, instead of feel or emote God-given...

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Some of my prayers in releasing Handle With Care were that I would not lose my identity in it, that I would be restrained from checking numbers incessantly or reading reviews, and that I would be grateful for the fruit already borne of it and in me instead of looking for new fruit everywhere....

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Monday, 17 February 2020 05:19

It's Okay to Not Bloom Where You're Planted

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I am an unashamed re-reader. I’ve read Animal, Vegetable, Miracle no fewer than five times, The Supper of the Lamb about three times. Annie' Dillard’s American Childhoodseveral times over and pick any of L’Engles and I’ve read them all multiple times. Eugene Peterson will...

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Sunday, 09 February 2020 23:30

Trauma Made Me Do It

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Last night I laid in a hot bath, bergamot and lavender and baking soda forming swirls like the image of earth and clouds from space. I meant to stay in just a few minutes but then Nate came in and read me, Poem Beginning & Ending With My Birth from the latest Poetry Magazine, and so I...

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Sunday, 02 February 2020 23:30

Thank You!

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Tomorrow Handle With Care releases into the world. Today I will be off the Internet just to savor and celebrate. But I wanted to say a few things before I absent myself. 

First, thank you. Thank you for reading Sayable for twenty years. Thank you for sticking with me a long, long time. I...

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Wednesday, 29 January 2020 01:16

Link Love: a gift for you and some beautiful writing

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It has been a full month for me, friends, leaving not even a little time to write reflectively. I’ve saved a few things to read along the way, though, and wanted to share them with you.

First, Abby Perry interviewed me in January’s print issue of Christianity Today. I hope there’s...

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Tuesday, 14 January 2020 01:39

This is Your Body Today

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On Sabbath we talk about old age, ours and our parents. We talk about theirs because they will always be 25 or 30 years older than us and as we age, they do too, as we falter, they do too, as we forget, they do too. We talk about ours because what does a person need as they grow old? Shelter. Food....

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A little over a year ago I was sitting in Andrew Peterson’s Behold the Lamb of God annual Christmas concert, flipping through the program when I saw a one page spread on the artist Andrew had worked with for some of his albums. At that juncture, I was in conversations with B&H, my...

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Monday, 30 December 2019 23:47

Sign Up for the Handle With Care Launch Team

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There are a lot of reasons I've never written a book before, some more laudable than others, but one of the chief reasons is fear. And it's not fear of man so much as it is fear that what I write will not stand the test of time. That my opinions will change or my life will change or you will...

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As we left the theater on Christmas Day, the big man behind me having dried up his sniffles and now denying he sniffled at all or even knew the names of the characters except, “Amy, was she the hot one?”, I gripped the hand of my husband. He was unashamed of his emotion, telling me...

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Monday, 23 December 2019 23:24

When Your Friend is Depressed

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This past year I discovered the writings of Parker Palmer, an octogenarian Quaker who has an impressive line-up of little books behind him. I say “little” not because they are the work of simpleton, but because they are the work of someone who, in the Quaker tradition, knows sometimes...

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Thursday, 12 December 2019 06:38

An Embarrassment of Love

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I am embarrassed by my husband’s love for me. Not in the “No, no, stop…” way, but in the way we say about those who are wealthy with “an embarrassment of riches.” This morning I sent a text to a dear one saying, “Happy Birthday!” and she replied,...

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Tuesday, 10 December 2019 00:10

This is Not a Top Ten List

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“Ugh,” I messaged a friend the other day. “What?” she asked in return. “Tis the season for all the top ten lists and I’m already over it,” I replied (or something like it). My inner Scrooge is on full throttle between Thanksgiving and Christmas, which I...

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Wednesday, 20 November 2019 13:57

He Gives His Beloved

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I committed the cardinal sin of the insomniac which is to never let caffeinated nectar pass into my bloodstream past 10am, which is why at 12am, slathered in CBD oil and lavender, I am still wide awake. The cause for caffeine was good: we attended Say Yes, A Liturgy of Not Giving Up on Yourself, by...

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